Updated August 2013
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What is Hoarding and Compulsive Hoarding?
VIDEO FROM Reclaiming Dignity.com made by www.childrenofhoarders.com
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hoarding
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Compulsive_hoarding says:
"It involves the collection or failure to discard large numbers of objects even when their storage causes significant clutter and impairment to basic living activities such as moving around the house, cooking, cleaning or sleeping. Hoarding rubbish may be referred to as syllogomania."
"While there is no definition of compulsive hoarding in accepted diagnostic criteria (such as the current DSM), Frost and Hartl (1996) provide the following defining features:[1]
- the acquisition of, and failure to discard, a large number of possessions that appear to be useless or of limited value
- living spaces sufficiently cluttered so as to preclude activities for which those spaces were designed
- significant distress or impairment in functioning caused by the hoarding
Neat & Simple Blog Posts Related to Hoarding
- Compulsive Hoarding Study - Invitation from Dr. David Tolin 9/23/09
- Help for Hoarders - What really works? 8/24/09
- Hoarders: A New TV Show 8/2009
- The Things We Carry: Modern Artists Confront Compulsive Hoarding 7/2009
- My Top 10 Tips for Clutter-Free Living 2/2009
- Help! I'm a Hoarder TV Show - Review and Discussion
- Overcoming Hoarding Tendencies with Dr. Randy Frost & Sandra Felton
- Surviving & Overcoming Living in Squalor
- Supporting Someone Who Lives in Squalor - Squalor Survivors & Children & Family of Hoarders
- OCF's Hoarding Web Site: How Compulsive Hoarding Affects Families
- National Study Group on Chronic Disorganization (NSGCD) to Hold Its Annual Conference in NJ in September 2007!
NJ Support Groups for Clutterers and Hoarding
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The Obsessive Compulsive Foundation has support groups in central and southern NJ. Website: www.njocf.org.
Clutterers Anonymous Support Group meets in Metuchen, NJ www.claeast.org
Compulsive Shopping
- Shopaholics Anonymous
- Stopping Overshopping
- The Call of the Mall - Article from MedicineNet.com
Finding a Professional Organizer & Others who are Qualified to Work with Hoarders
- NSGCD Graduate List of Organizers with Certifications
- Neat & Simple Compulsive Hoarding Service Provider Referral Directory
Websites & Forums
- Children of Hoarders group. For the Adult Children of Hoarders(COH) who grew up in a hoarders home and/or have a parent who still hoards. (Spouses of COH welcome too!)
- OCD Foundation's Hoarding Website
- Hoarding Task Force by Cornell UniversityNot frequently updated but lots of info
- Hoarding Fact Sheet - Los Angeles County Department of Mental HealthPDF quick facts sheet
- New York City Hoarding Website
- Understanding Hoarding, written by a hoarder- Very insightful
- Reading List by Understanding Hoarding - Lots of great links here
- "Squalor Survivors"- Many personal stories and photos - excellent forum
- Reclaiming Dignity- Support site run by people who live with hoarding issues themselves. Wonderful video and Resource Pages.
- www.messies.com
- Clutterers Anonymous dot Net
NSGCD's List
- http://understanding_ocd.tripod.com/hoarding.html
- http://flylady.net/
- http://clutterless.org/index.html
- http://www.clutterersanonymous.net/
Reading Lists
Sandra Feltons Support Groups. I don't like the term "messies" but she is a recovered hoarder with lots of great info and big heart. Her book is very insightful. www.messies.com
- Messietalk Postings about the general problems and solutions Messies face in many areas of life. One of the most active groups.
- Australian Messies in Recovery As Australian Messies work together they can speed their own improvement.
- Teleconference Announcement
Join this group to be notified about upcoming telephone conference dates. - Twelve Step Group
For those who want to change the characteristics that have led them into the Messie lifestyle using the Twelve Steps. - Organize to Socialize
Let’s get the house and ourselves ready to invite others in! The focus of this group is organizing, and only organizing, with the idea of inviting others in. - Only-for-Singles
Sharing struggles and solutions concerning the special issue of living an organized life for those in the single world. - Faith in Organizing
For those who seek encouragement and direction from both the Old and New Testaments of the Bible as applied to organizing our time, homes, and lives. - In Flight Messies
The InFlight Messies is for those who are experienced with the Messies Anonymous program AND have been in the program for about four months. - Moms and Mentors
Those who have children living in the home struggle with special problems of organizing. This site if for those who are in the midst of the fray at this time and for those who have found solutions. - Organize-to-Teach
Teachers are awash in paperwork and planning. Together, Messie teachers can learn tricks, strategies, and methods for simplifying their lives and enabling the to be better teachers. - Mates-of-Messies
Many mates of Messies are distressed and discouraged about the condition of the house and the problems that the Messie in their lives are dealing with. The focus of this group is to offer support and encouragement as mates of Messies seeks to maintain and improve both the home and the marriage. (It is not for serious problems of hoarding in the life of a loved one. Go to Friends of Hoarders group below.) - Organize-to-Homeschool
Homeschoolers have very specific organizational problems. Together homeschooling Messies can share organizing strategies and solutions they have found useful as they homeschool their children. - Messiness-and-ADD
It is a self-help group designed to provide motivation, inspiration, and information from other distractible people who experience the problem of disorganization. - Messiness-and-Hoarding
Most disorganized people tend to keep too many belongings. This site does not intend to deal with the ordinary problem of keeping too much experienced by many. It is only for those for whom hoarding is a very significant problem either for themselves or loved ones and is not intended as a site for general use. - Friends of Hoarders
This group is for those who care about someone who is a hoarder. It is not a therapy group. Here we share information which may be useful in understand those whose lives are impacted by hoarding.
Hello, My name is Sylvie Raquer and i'm searching for a group of any kind What is Hoarding and Compulsive Hoarding? that could help me with my problem in Montreal.
If you have any new you would be bless to write me back because i am exhaused to try to clean and clean and it never seemn to get better.
Merci beaucoup ! I'm french by the way for Montréal.
Posted by: Sylvie Raquer | October 01, 2008 at 03:55 PM
Here are links to sites I know are out there...I'm not necessarily recommending them because I don't know your situation, but just wanted to list them here....
http://clutterless.org/index.html
http://understanding_ocd.tripod.com/hoarding.html
http://squalorsurvivors.com/
http://clutterless.org/index.html
Posted by: Ariane Benefit, M.S.Ed. | February 21, 2009 at 02:38 PM
Hoarders are not lazy or bad housekeepers but rather suffer from a very real mental condition. Hoarding can reach such levels that people can barely live with the amount of stuff being collected. Apart from the high possibility of accidents occurring, hoarders soon suffer from a withdrawal from reality along with feelings of paranoia and obsessive compulsiveness. Hoarding has to be treated as the mental illness that it is. For professional help, you could log on to http://www.recoveryconnection.org/. or call 1-800-993-3869 and get help now.
Posted by: Recovery Connection | March 26, 2009 at 12:32 AM
www.compulsive-hoarding.org is a brand new information resource website for those who have a problem with clutter or hoarding. The site has been created by experienced declutter and organise consultants Beverly Wade and Chrystine Bennett of www.cluttergone.co.uk
Between them with the help, support and insights of their clients, together with the experiences they have had with them, have published their thoughts, ideas and research for others to share.
Posted by: Beverly Wade | May 17, 2009 at 10:40 AM
Hoarders on A&E is casting its second season of the groundbreaking documentary television series that sheds much needed light on this complicated and underreported condition.
Each hour long episode will follow two individuals who suffer from this mental illness thru a crisis situation that is directly caused by their hoarding.
services needed by the hoarder include mental health support, professional organizers, and professional cleanup and/or junk removal services. Each case will be considered on an individual basis, and services will be tailored to fit individual needs.
If you or someone you know is a compulsive hoarder please go to our website to learn more information and to apply: http://www.aetv.com/hoarders/
Posted by: Hoarders@sfpseattle.com | October 16, 2009 at 07:31 PM
Hi. I hoard clothes. Maybe it's because my three siblings and I were neglected and forced to wear the same clothes every day, causing us to be bullied and picked on in school. I'm 52yrs old and I want tons and tons of clothes. I buy them at Goodwill because I can't afford new. I would rather have quantity than quality any day. Besides, the advice about building a wardrobe with only 3 or 4 colors is silly, I think, because people would only see me in the same 3 or 4 colors! Do you think my childhood has something to do with my hoarding? Thanks... Sharon
Posted by: Sharon Lambert | November 12, 2009 at 04:04 PM
Hi Sharon, everything about us is shaped in somehow by our childhood. But knowing that doesn't really change anything. If you are concerned about the hoarding, or it's causing you problems, a more productive question might be, how do I learn to live with the right amount of clothes for me? If you aren't happy having to spend a lot of time doing laundry, or having to spend a lot of time on clothing to the extent it's interfering with your quality of life, the more helpful questions are ones that help you discover a system that works for you.
p.s. I agree, you don't have to build around 3 or 4 colors, but it does work for a lot of people. Whatever works for you is fine with me. : )
Posted by: Ariane Benefit, M.S.Ed. | November 12, 2009 at 06:14 PM
I'm the 28 year old son of a hoarder. For almost my entire life my mother has been allowing her junk to pile up in every available space in our home. As a child and through my teens I was always to embarassed to have friends over so I never really did. It also didn't make having a girlfriend an easy task.
Over the years things in our house started to break down, but even my father was to embarresed to have a repairmen over. We had racoons living in our walls and ceilings for years, using our home as a toilet, before my older brother eventually called an exterminator. There are holes in the walls, the plumbing is horrible, and we don't have electricity in every part of the house, a water pipe broke in the basement so there is now dangerous mold all over the basement carpet and our kitchen is not usable. Our house is a disaster.
I've tried to clean by myself but my mother yells at me and tells me not to touch her stuff. She doesn't want me throw any of her important stuff away. I guess I fail to see the importance of a phone bill from 1989 or a basket from easter of 97'. Anything I do manage to clean just gets cluttered again within a week or so.
When I moved out of the house, my bedroom became her next victim. It was the same for all of my siblings rooms. I've tried to talk to my mother about it but she literally wont even speak about it. I haven't seen her clean anything in 10 years. It's driving me insane. I don't know how to handle it. Whats happening in our home has been a desease to our family. It has effected relationships and I hate to say it, It's made me resent my mother. My mothers hoarding and unwillingness to accept help, I fear, will result in health problems or our house will surcome to the elements.....Any Advise?
P.S. Oh I forgot to mention She also spends god know how much money on shopping for god know what.
Posted by: anonymous | November 30, 2009 at 02:57 PM
Hello, adult child of a hoarder with a new blog with excerpts from my memoir "Nice children stolen from Car."
Stop by and see it at www.nicechildrenstolenfromcar.blogspot.com
Posted by: Barbara Allen | January 19, 2010 at 10:20 PM
Hi Ariane,
Couldn't locate an email link for you, but I guess this should be ok to post this-
Just wanted to mention the video you have posted on this page might be posted at Reclaiming Dignity, but it was created by www.childrenofhoarders.com.
Also wanted to mention you have links here to an old site I had, www.helpinghoarders.com--but that site is no longer any good. The domain expired and an advertiser picked it up, and I don't have the funds to try and buy it back from them. So wanted you to know that is an advertiser now, posing as a hoarding info site I guess! The associated blog I used to have for helpinghoarders.com is no longer either.
Thanks very much-you look like you are keeping busy!
Donna Austin
www.childrenofhoarders.com
Posted by: donna | February 27, 2010 at 06:11 PM
P.S., I read you were thinking about doing a section here for Children of Hoarders-that's great! Maybe you did already and I can't find it? If it's here, please help me find it as I'm looking forward to it as you have so much good information on here about everything else.
Donna
Posted by: donna | February 27, 2010 at 06:14 PM
Hi Donna! Thanks for the heads up on the broken links...that's a shame...I wish I'd known...I would have donated the fees to buy the URL for you. Next time let me know if something like that happens.
Know I haven't created the ACOH page yet... ...probably not till fall...I have my hands FULL right now. even breaking my own rule and working this weekend to get caught up.
But in the meantime, if you have any articles you would like me to post here I would be most happy too! and of course include links back to you.
Take care!
Ariane
Posted by: Ariane Benefit, M.S.Ed. | February 27, 2010 at 07:45 PM
It's just nice to find a place that is non-judgmental. I know I have a problem and I am working on it to the best of my abilities. I have several comorbid mental illnesses but I am not using this as an excuse. I have bipolar disorder type II, borderline personality disorder, panic disorder, and obviously OCD manifesting as hoarding. I'm sure they're all interconnected. Part of the problem is, I was undiagnosed until I was 38 years old. Another part of the problem is I continually felt sorry for my ex husband and would let him come live with me and my son--not in a romantic way, but in the spare room--so he wouldn't be out in the street. He was severely depressed and did not lift a finger to help. So things became an even worse mess. He has finally moved for good as my son said if I let him back in he'll have me committed.
This will sound crazy but I think part of my problem extends back to my early childhood. My mother would repeat these crazy stories that were told to her by her devoutly religious grandmother. One of the stories was that if a picture of someone were destroyed, that person's soul would be destroyed. Thus I have always found it difficult to dispose of magazines which have pictures of children, even though I now know this is not a rational idea that was planted into my head. I also have problems with keeping stuff that I "might need someday."
At this point I'm going to be having to move come next summer. The cost of living in my current area is far too high. I've always been busy so I said I'd deal with this stuff someday. Well, someday is now and it's a nightmare. I feel like crying and am so angry with myself for allowing it to get this way.
As I said, I know I have a problem, so I guess I just wanted to vent. Thank you for making this site and for not thinking of those of us with this problem as lazy pigs, which is what I heard about myself so much through the years, that I was a lazy pig.
Posted by: Cie | July 15, 2010 at 07:55 AM
Thank you for this amazing site and the list of resources. It gives me hope that at 62 years old I can move toward leading a better life.
This morning I am letting someone in my house for the first time in 6 years (other than my son in law and daughter) I am literally forcing myself to let this stranger inside these walls because I need his help with my computer for my work and I am ashamed of myself for canceling appointments with him. I can't mess his schedule up any more because of my problem. I was so upset at 3 a.m. this morning trying to clear a path for him that I actually threw up and now I am getting very nervous because I don't want anyone to see how I live. Look at what I am doing right now....spending time on this site writing these thoughts instead of working on clearing the path.
Well, I would love to spend more time here this morning on this site but I have to move some stuff so he can come through my front door. I can't express my embarrassment. I have know for months that this day was coming.
Tottie
Posted by: Tottie | July 22, 2010 at 08:02 AM
Tottie, I know this is so hard for you…try to stay focused on
how BRAVE you are! This is a HUGE accomplishment! There is no shame in getting the help you need…whatever the problem you have.
One of the most interesting and powerful lessons I have learned about releasing shame…is that whatever your problems are…they are also the source of some of the deepest and most loving and intimate connections you can ever have with other people.
Your honesty will be a source of inspiration to others. Those who judge…you don’t want in your life anyway. I hope you can feel this for yourself….you are so deserving of compassion and support – just because you exist. You don’t have to “earn” it or live up to other’s expectations to deserve compassion. You just have to accept it. : )
Sending big hugz to you!
Posted by: Ariane Benefit, M.S.Ed. | July 22, 2010 at 08:27 PM
Cie - Thank you for sharing your story...you are so not alone. i'm glad you feel safe here. : )
Posted by: Ariane Benefit, M.S.Ed. | July 22, 2010 at 08:29 PM
Hi Ariane (and all) I am a wife and mother of older children and my husband is a hoarder. our house is not as bad as some on the tv shows (no rodents and such and we don't have 50 cats- just 2) but it is still pretty awful. I have not had company over hardly ever and we pretty much don't have any serious friends probably because of this. My husband "collects" everything under the sun and still keeps wanting/getting more! Now things have come to a head because we have been asked by our landlord to find a new place to live...after 20 years living here!! To make matters worse, my husband was recently injured while we were on vacation and had to have surgery! The landlord is giving us time due to this but it still is imminantly there. I am at my wits end and don't know where to begin!! I can not even find a suitable residence for us and our pets (2 cats and a dog) and prices are very high and I have NO IDEA where to start with all this stuff!! I am having trouble focusing on work and I feel so helpless. Any suggestions? Thanks! Loving, but frustrated wife.
Posted by: Frustrated and scared | October 26, 2010 at 09:23 PM
Memo to Ariane from Gerry Cohen, president of Gerrus Maintenance Inc.
We do not directly provide organizing, but we do provide all cleaning, deodorization and sanitizing.
Gerry Cohen,
President
GERRUS MAINTENANCE INC.
info@gerrus.com
www.gerrus.com/hoarding.php
732-225-0662
Posted by: Gerry Cohen, President | October 30, 2010 at 03:41 PM
My brother in law is a cronic hoarder, anything from books, newspapers, clutter and general rubbish.....he is about to loose his house due to considerable debt! As a family we feel the problem is to big for us to deal with and that he needs professional help, he says he is getting help but with the continuous lies over storage containers (he has many) and lying to conceal his hoarding we dont know weather to belive him or not, we are in melbourne australia and in desperate need of help to try and solve this issue before he hits absolute rock bottom
Jeni.
Posted by: Jennifer burns | March 08, 2011 at 09:18 PM
Jennifer,
Family members usually cannot help hoarders - it is a serious disturbance and traumatized state of being that requires deep understanding, infinite patience and compassionate, skilled treatment. The treatment is "counterintuitive" to the logical mind so family members often end up estranged, angry and deeply frustrated. It's much like treating a heroin addiction to be honest. You cannot save an addict from themselves using conventional means. I strongly suggest you seek professional help for yourselves to cope with this and to help you figure out a way to stage an appropriate intervention that will not further traumatize your BIL.
I wish you much luck in finding the right team. In Australia you can start your search online here:
http://www.aapo.org.au/
Warmest Regards,
Ariane
Posted by: Ariane Benefit, M.S.Ed. | March 09, 2011 at 08:21 AM
I am so touched by reading that there are others like myself who struggle with hoarding. I feel so guilty for not having my kid's friends over or even my own friends from work. I want to change and I have tried. Things stay clean for a little while and then they go right back to stuff everywhere. Any advice on how I should start getting on track with out being judgemental of myself? I just feel like I am on a roller coaster ride of cleaning and failing and then being depressed because I failed.
Thanks again for having this site available- it is a lifeline for so many.
Posted by: vicky | May 04, 2011 at 07:04 PM
If you need help cleaning out a hoarders home in the New York City area, please feel free to contact us. We can discretely help families get rid of the clutter and chaos related to compulsive hoarding disorder. We are very experienced in dealing with the trauma attached to disposal of a persons beloved items. There is hope.
Posted by: Nick | June 15, 2011 at 07:28 AM
Perhaps this is a shameless plug, but I own a hoarding cleanup company ( www.cendecon.com ) and have worked with hundreds of hoarders and family members of hoarders. We are available to help families in California.
Happy Holidays.
Posted by: Vanessa Phearson | December 19, 2011 at 08:18 PM
Someone I recently met told me they are a hoarder and they are tired of it and want to clean out their home but can't get started and needs some help. This is a huge undertaking, one that I can't do but can be supportive. I have looked on line for people or services that can come in and assist my new friend with this but have had not luck finding even one company in CT that does this. Where should I be looking and are there key words I should search for on line? I want to give my friend the information and see if the desire is still there, or at least he has it if he wants to move forwrd later. I would appreciate any direction anyone can give me.
Posted by: Sharon Heddle | June 21, 2012 at 10:09 PM