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September 18, 2007

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~Dawn

I saw the show, it was interesting... I wonder if the couple that had the hypnotizing found that it worked for them or if they just put the stuff into storage?

Chrissy

I haven't seen the show yet, but I would love to get my in-laws on the show...but how do you get them on the show, and how do you tell them without 'hurting their feelings'

Ariane Benefit, M.S.Ed.

Hi Chrissy,

That is a really tough question to answer without knowing your in-laws. To learn more about the show and how to get on, go to their website. Though I'm not sure it's a series. There are other's though...like Oprah and Clean House.

My instinct tells me that if it were my in-laws, I might tell them about a show I saw and wonder how people feel about being on a show like that. Perhaps consult a coach to help you strategize this if it's really important to you.

In my experience, most people with clutter issues don't want anyone in their home. Many tell me they waited years before calling me. The shame runs really deep. I do wonder how some people make the emotional journey to become brave enough to let cameras into their homes.

I wish you all the best,
Ariane

BettyJean

My mother is a hoarder, with collectables and 2 freezers. My father died 2 years ago and my mother is currently in an assisted living facility. The house in uninhabitable. There is no where to eat on her diningroom table. There are still dishes on the counter and food that has to be expired. There is a 3 car garage with only one care that can barely fit. She is still holding on and realizing that I am a 'product of my environment' it is hard to clean up & OUT without her concent. She knows where alot of the 'stuff' is and how much the collectables are. The cellar is full of clothes, an old washer that we had in a trailor w/ lived in 35 years ago. I am an only child w/ no help from the extended family. I would like to get someone to help w/ auctioning the collectables and cleaning up the house once it is cleaned OUT. There is no place to put anything to clean up a space. Where do I go to get in touch w/ a program that is willing to take on this challenge? How does all the people on other shows to contact them for help?

BettyLu

I watched the tv show and it so "hit home" that it nearly knocked me off my feet. It put my clutter and my actions in a whole new perspective. I am attacking my mountains of clutter so that I can have a yard sale at a friends home in a week. We decided to do this about three weeks ago. In the meantime... l saw the show and was horrified. Behaviors over the years have now come to make sense in relation to this
"collecting". A thought came to me.... that my life to date has been the acquisition of "things". Now that I'm at this point in my life (54) I feel that I will spend the rest of my life trying to rid myself of this junk. What a waste of a lifetime! Buying things as a teacher always made sense... because teachers do that to have things for their students. I claimed it as "providing for my students". My boss has given me a hard time about having so much in my classroom. I have worked to pare that down. I think I've equated having lots of games and supplies with being a good teacher. ... I love it when someone comes to me needing something... fishing line to hang up a solar system.... clothespins for a game... a certain book, etc. It makes me feel good to give to them.
I wonder how much of this is tied up to... "If I have something to give them, they'll like me?" Just a thought.
I have thought a great deal about this hoarding being connected to mental illness. I don't like the idea of putting myself in the same category as the poor people on the tv show, but I'm close to it. I am out to prove that I can release this stuff. I don't want to ignore it anymore. I want it gone.
By the way, I want to say that my classroom has a lot of materials in it, not useless clutter. At home, yes... I do have that mess. It is just going to take me a long time to "champion" the task.

Ariane Benefit, M.S.Ed.

Hi Betty Jean,

I can feel the frustration and pain in your letter. It is so hard to stand by and see others make choices that you know are hurting them in the long run. And even harder still when they won't accept your help. There are several wonderful support sites for hoarders and even for Children of Hoarders.

Here is the form to submit your information to be considered to be on the new A&E TV show called Hoarders

http://hoardersdocumentary.com/machform/view.php?id=3

Here is a list of resources I've been putting together for a few years now.

http://blog.neatandsimple.com/help-for-hoarders-clutter.html

And recently I found a wonderful new site to add to the list.

http://www.reclaimingdignity.com/

I hope you find this helpful!

My prayers are with you and your family.

Ariane

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