NEAT & SIMPLE LIVING

Best Kept Secret for Overcoming Perfectionism is....

Be Kind to Yourself!

Are you surprised that this is actually one of the most effective strategies to help you Overcome Perfectionism?  It's true!

In the midst of pressure and stress, or when we make mistakes, or forget something important, it's all too easy to berate and criticize ourselves. How can you focus on your strengths, get things done, and expect others to treat you with respect if you are constantly beating yourself up?  

When you constantly criticize yourself without compassion and forgiveness, you are literally training others that's its okay for them to criticize you and not be compassionate. 

If you can't be kind and patient with yourself, how can you be truly be kind and patient with others? 

 

 I Propose a New Golden Rule: 

ADD - ADHD is real

 Kalstolyn, a college student shares her reality of ADD.

ADHD is real.  As you listen, notice the painful awareness and how acutely she realizes that she is so differenct.  Notice the impact of what it's like to have people constantly say things like.

 "All you have to do is...."    or "Why can't you just...?"  

 Imagine being diabetic and having someone say, "Why can't you just produce more insulin yourself? 

Well, we can't "just produce" the brain chemicals we need either.  We can only influence. 

As you watch, note that her views on ADD medication are her experience...she is right that people without ADD respond to ADD meds differently but just for the record, people with ADD also have a variety of responses.  Medication is also not a CURE.  It doesn't make you suddenly like every one else...it just makes it a wee bit easier to manage the ADD. 

There are several types of ADD and what she describe is the Hyperactive type ...not everyone develops Anorexic symptoms like she describes...and there is another type of ADD which is very quiet called Inattentive.

With that in mind...Everyone who has ADD or knows someone who does will benefit from listening to her description of ADD is for her. I cried while listening...it reminded me of when I was college and what it was like for me. I"m going to stop now to pull myself together...but please...do listen if you can. 

And to  Kalstolyn - Thank you so much for sharing your story and experience so that other's could learn.   I know how embarrassing it feels to admit the simple things that are hard for us...but you have NOTHING to be ashamed of and MANY wonderful qualities to focus on! 

Thanks to Bryan at ADDer World for sharing this. 

Check out ADDer World here

http://adderworld.ning.com/video/add-is-real

FOR MORE ARTICLES AND INFO ON ADULT ADHD 

 

"What is Chronic Disorganization vs. Situational Disorganization?"

"Is it Adult ADHD or Creative Personality Type?"

"Myths and Facts about Adult ADHD" A Free 4 Page PDF Chart

 

 

What it takes to "Overcome Perfectionism"

What a great call this was!  We were so moved by the response to this call...over 220 people signed up and I'm still getting lots of emails from people who missed the registration window. 

 I really enjoyed how Debbie and I riffed off each other and explored this topic so deeply.  We covered lots of strategies for recognizing "blindspots" and letting go of perfectionism.

If you would like to listen...it's not too late.. 

"Overcoming Perfectionism: Everything I Know about Perfectionism, I Learned from my Breasts" (Audio Class + Handout)
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How do I know what I want?

This question was asked by several participants in my latest program on "Embracing the Power of Good Enough".  It really got me thinking....  This question gets to the very heart of life!  It sure is relevant to my life right now.  Maybe yours too? 

I've been rethinking a lot of my needs and wants, lately.  Like this blog, for example.  

• How do I want to express myself with it?
• What purpose do I want it to serve for me and my tribe? 
• How do I want to share my point of view?  In small, realtime chunks like Twitter? or with well thought out inspirational and educational articles?  Do I want to be more transparent and share my thought processes about my work and about my own life with ADHD and a hyperactive creative brain? 

One thing for sure, I want to reflect on and write more about all aspects of life with ADD. In my coaching, I help people with all areas of life...so why aren't I talking about all of them on this blog?  

Motivating Yourself to Organize when you have ADHD

This week I gave a 30 minute mini-class on ADHD Coach Talk with Tara McGillicuddy.   We discussed "Motivating Yourself to Get Organized with Adult ADHD" plus a few of the inspirational concepts, tips and strategies from my book "Neat & Simple Guide to Organizing your Home Office" including how to get motivated to organize (and build your self-esteem along the way.)  We covered how organizing empowers you to improve your health, shed weight and so much more. 

Get the recording here:

"Motivating Yourself to Get Organized with Adult ADHD"