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Joanna Young

Ariane, what I love about you is that you are using your experience to teach, help and inspire others as well as to live a life that allows you to thrive.

I felt really uplifted by this piece this morning, thank you :-)

Joanna

Terry Matlen, ACSW

Ariane,

Your brave post has done more good than you will ever know. First, you have allowed a part of you to be shared with the world; something that must have been hidden deeply for most if not all your life. Hopefully, you will feel a huge burdon being lifted now. It IS scary, but you will soon see that now you can be open about your difficulties and use this post as the first step of enjoying the new you- the "whole" you that no longer has to be hidden.

As you know, I am a big fan of your site and your writings. Like most everyone else, I would never have guessed that you have ADHD, but I know the price you pay for keeping things going smoothly (at least from the outside looking in).

You see, I too, have ADHD and to others, I also appear to be very together. But in order to get things done, for starters, I have to stay up till very very late at night in order to finish what I start, due to the distractions and perfectionism (which I believe is completely related to fighting ADHD tendencies). People don't see that part of our lives.

So please accept my "bravo" to you, for opening up your personal life to your readers and allowing them to see the struggles you've lived with all these years.

Your sensitivity, empathy and deep understanding of people's differences will only help others to begin embracing theirs and other's differences as well. And with this platform of yours, you can get your message out in a big way.

I know that once I became comfortable with my own diagnosis and got to the point where I could reveal my ADHD, my whole world opened up, as it did for others, who could see that ADHD isn't a death sentence. It's simply a challenge.

Thanks for sharing and being a fantastic role model for all of us out there who have this "thing" called ADHD.

Terry Matlen, ACSW
Director
ADD Consults
www.addconsults.com

Author: "Survival Tips for Women with ADHD"

Ariane Benefit

Joanna and Terry:

Your comments have made me feel so acknowledged, understood and accepted that I felf like I was being covered in a safe, warm hug - and I burst into tears. How amazing to put myself out there on a cliff and feel like I was caught mid-fall. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for your kind and thoughtful responses. I will treasure them always. They mean more to me than you will probably ever know.

Miss. B

Thank you so much for this entry! I too have this "problem", I accept it as my gift as well. It's so inspiring to read your story.

Rosa Say

Ariane, you are amazing. I have been a huge fan of yours ever since Dwayne first introduced us and I began to learn about your work, and reading this now, wow... you blow me away.

It takes so much courage to share personal stories like this when you never quite know who may be reading them, but what you really inspire me with is your genuine desire and generosity in helping others learn about ADD and ADHD too, fully understanding how that knowledge can make their own path a bit less bumpy - and how we can smooth the way for others who are struggling. This is aloha shining brightly.

Geralin Thomas

Ariane,

Thank you so much for generously sharing your news with us; I warmly embrace and respect anyone who has this challenge in life.

While I don’t have ADHD I have many clients who do and I always think of them as “Gifted & Talented” because of their many coping mechanisms and creative strategies.

An interesting bit of information to note is that 100% of my female clients with a professionally diagnosed “gift” of ADHD weren’t diagnosed until after the age of 30 so …at least among my clients, females tend to be “late bloomers” seeking help for their ADHD.

Does anyone else find this interesting? I sure do: males are diagnosed early in life but females aren’t!

I recently posted a question from a woman with ADHD seeking help coping with paper-related issues. You can find it here: http://www.cleverparents.com/2008/02/01/adhd

Your "coming out" is sure to inspire and help many; say it loud and say it proud!


Gwen

Ariane, thank you. Although I have not been diagnosed with ADD, I soooooooo. . . relate to what you have written. My reviews and evaluations mirror yours. I too have tried to "not speak" out in meetings, but have not had your discipline.

I have taken several of the courses offered through Covey, but have not read the book. It is now next on my list.

Ariane Benefit

Miss B., Rosa, Geralyn, Gwen:

Thank you so much for your support and encouragement. Your notes are like BIG HUGS and I can never get enough hugs - Just ask my cats. : )

@ Rosa - You are a gem. What I would give for your ability to write so fast and so from the heart. This ADD Post took me about 4 or 5 hours all told to write - so sit in awe of the many blogs on which you share so much wisdom and insight. Thank you!

@ Geralyn - You are such an inspiration! Thank you so much for everything you do to help minimize the "stigma" of ADD.

@ Gwen - Covey is great - a must read classic. There are also other books that help build listening sills too. For me, the "Payoff Imperative" that ultimate got me to seriously focus on becoming a better listener was that I want to develop better relationships. It become clear to me that not "seeking first to understand, then be understood" was at the heart of many relationship problems. Another great book that made HUGE differences for me was "Crucial Conversations" Let me know how you do!

Dr. Amie Ragan

Ariane,

This is valuable information. Per your request, I have linked to your post and added my two cents on my blog. I think this thread will help a lot of people recognize their problem and learn to turn it in to a strength.

Tara McGillicuddy

Ariane,

Your post it great!! It's really inspiring and it helps to show that ADHD does in fact affect people differently. While there are many people who are stuck there also a lot of people with ADHD who are successful too.

Thank you so much for helping to show to this to others!!

Heather

Ariane,

I admire you for having the courage to share your experience, and how you use it to help others thrive!

I love your blog!

Debbie Jordan Kravitz

Ariane-
This is my first visit to your blog and I LOVED it!.
My 10-year, straight A, overachieving daughter was just diagnosed with ADD and I've been struggling with the entire experience. As a Professional Organizer, too, I've been searching for ways to help play to her strengths and needs as we develop behavior modifactions to help her.

I was so moved by how you didn't let this "disorder" slow you down, but instead thrived, either because of it or in spite of it (or both!!). My daughter has inspired me to research ways to help others with ADD organize their lives and households, without feeling like they are destined to living with clutter and chaos.

Thanks for your inpiring words and personal reflections!!

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